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Liberated From the Obsession of Food, Weight loss, Body Image...Oh my...

I don't know about you but liberated has never been a word that entered my mind around food or my body.  I have felt judged, wrong, less than most of my life.  

This morning I was reading an article about something totally different and the word liberated stood out.  Liberated. 

adjective: liberated

1. (of a person) showing freedom from social conventions or traditional ideas, especially with regard to sexual roles.

"the modern image of the independent, liberated woman"

2. (of a place or people) freed from imprisonment, slavery, or enemy occupation.

"liberated areas of the country"


Anytime a word strikes me I look it up in the dictionary.  A habit I got into years ago.  The definitions really hit me and how I feel about my relationship with food.  

freedom from social conventions or traditional ideas,

freed from imprisonment, slavery, or enemy occupation.

It hasn't always been that way.  For years I was, at least my thoughts, feelings and beliefs about food, my body and weight loss would have been considered enemy occupation as I beat myself unmercifully.  I beat myself up because what the scales reflected. I beat myself up because of my dress size.  I beat myself because I played games with changing my eating habits.  I beat myself up because blah, blah, blah, I just beat myself up.  

There was an endless supply of angst around food.  What to eat, when to eat it.  Not wanting to change what I was eating but wanting to weigh less.  Honestly that is like the alcoholic not wanting to give up drinking but wanting to lose his job, health, go to jail, fill in the blank.  

But I will also tell you there is an endless supply of bad information out there.  Remember the low fat craze in the 70's?  That had us eating sugar and chemical laden foods that we are still trying to work through.  Remember the Atkins diet where you ate ridiculous amounts of meat but very little fruits and vegetables?  Yeah, your kidneys can't handle that much protein.

If you are like me I have tried all the crazy diets of planning to drink nothing but shakes or eat cabbage soup or just flat out starve by eating nothing at all. Okay that last one was in high school and I was taking a lot of amphetamines.  

But none the less, bondage, angst, a prisoner of the latest fad, my beliefs, my expectations of my body, the demands on my body, not wanting to give up my friend food, the taste, the feeling, ugh.... The going back and forth.  

A few years ago I was introduced to some different ways of thinking about food.  Food became about nourishment, fuel.  It was no longer the enemy, something I fought.  It was a question of my system, my metabolism, my hormones, my blood type, my makes up, what did it need to run at an optimal level.  I began to notice what I ate and how I felt afterwards. 

  • Did I feel energized and alive or did I feel wiped out?
  • Did my muscles and joints ache after I ate certain foods?  
  • Did I appear bloated, have gas, indigestion when I ate certain food types? 

I connected to my body.  

I had to work through the compulsion part.  The part where I knew I was going to suffer and I ate it anyway.  That isn't logical but I did it.  I knew my acid reflux would be through the roof if I ate ice cream after 3 p.m. but I did it and would be up all night.  In literal pain.  That was the emotional and compulsive piece that required acceptance and integration work to resolve.  I needed real tools and techniques to cut the cords to binge foods so I would stop hurting myself like that.  

Then it was about accepting my body.  

If you have been following me a while you have probably heard me say this but it is worth repeating.  

I would stand in front of the mirror, sometimes naked, looking at my body and say "I'm going to love you.  No matter what you eat or don't eat, no matter what you weigh or don't weigh, I am going to stand here and love you today."  

Now to some people they think that is silly but to some of you... some of you just thought, no way.  Some of you just choked up because you feel the sting of those words.  

Man I could write a ton more about that one thing. That was a process in itself.  A hard one to be honest.  I did not start out meaning those words and in truth was pretty ugly to myself about my body and weight as I moved from rejection to acceptance.  

But today I ask you to sit with the word liberated.  

Do you feel liberated in regards to food, your weight, your body?  What would need to happen in order for you to feel liberated?  What habit, belief, limitation stands in the way of you being or feeling liberated? 



Tammy Marshall is a dynamic and passionate Speaker, Writer and Christ Follower, Tammy works diligently to bring emotional freedom to those still suffering. At age 14 Tammy knew she was to help others “get out” but didn’t know exactly what that meant. But after overcoming her own addictions at age 25 and walking out the journey of emotional eating, molestation and co-dependency she began to work with others to “get out”. Today not only does she understand what it is it to get out of a damaging lifestyle, belief system and mind set but has created a method to teach others. She is the creator of The UnEmotional Eater program, and EFT, Matrix Reimprinting and AAIT Practitioner utilizing leading edge technology to resolve suffering.  She is mother to Hayden and dog mom to Bo. She is committed to shining the truth of God’s love into every lie planted in a person’s life to steal their identity of who God created them to be.  

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