Episode 131 The Diary of an Emotional Eater: We Cease Fighting Anyone and Anything Including the Food
We cease fighting!
That statement, we cease fighting anyone or anything is one of those statements or principals I learned a thousand years ago; we cease fighting anyone and anything which includes food. I'm in all these Facebook groups, overeaters, compulsive eaters, binge eaters and intermittent fasting groups.
It always strikes when people say, “just tell me what to eat, just tell me what to eat, just tell me what to eat”, which comes out of the diet conditioning epidemic.
But the reality is I don't know what you need to eat.
Your body knows what you need to eat. We're all little science projects. We all have a different makeup. I personally like a higher protein diet, but I have friends that when they have had their lab work done, they need carbs. So, for me to go to tell them they need some kind of low carb diet, would be horrible for them.
Sometimes the reason people go...
Episode 130 The Diary of an Emotional Eater: Whatever You Resist Persists
The conversation this morning, as I was doing meditation, was about resistance. Somebody sent me an email yesterday and it breaks my heart when I watch somebody suffer; it just absolutely is so hard. It’s this suffering that we do with food; I honestly do not think anything has done more - and I said this kind of as a joke but not entirely - there is nothing that has done more to destroy women's self-esteem than dieting. Not even our narcissistic boyfriend, ex-husbands. Not entirely, but on some level; because I don’t know about you all, but I have spent an entire lifetime fighting food. Fighting my willpower, fighting my desires, fighting the compulsion of, and you're fighting it on both ends. That's what we're really going to talk about today.
We spend so much time fighting both ends of the spectrum. Whatever we resist...
Episode 129 The Dairy of an Emotional Eater: The Ugly Truth and Testimony
Good morning how you all doing? My name is Tammy Marshall, I'm the creator of the Unemotional Eater Protocol
Apparently, today is testimony day. What you all don't know is that I have this little conversation with God in the shower every day. So, I asked him this morning what are we going to talk about and it's kind of piggybacking off of a conversation that I got in on with Facebook Messenger yesterday. There was a lady that I just sent her a little message that said, “How are you doing?”. She wasn't doing okay. So, I just started sharing what I did and when you know people just in the virtual world, you don't really realize what goes on in people's lives; you just see all the shiny stuff. We don't see the snot-slinging, crying, heartbreaking stuff.
That's part of my story; I honestly, I thought I had it all together and that I was all that and a bag of chips. I don't know, it's been forever ago now, I met this guy I thought he was my prince charming and he turned out to...
Episode 128 The Diary of an Emotional Eater: Turning Uncomfortable Into Comfortable
Episode 128 The Diary of an Emotional Eater: Turning Uncomfortable Into Comfortable
Hey, how are you? My name is Tammy Marshal, I’m The UnEmotional Eater. How are you all doing? I haven’t seen you in forever.
It’s my fault because there’s just so much going on this summer.
I have to have the glasses, but I have this big light and so you all have to love me through the big light because I have to read my notes, or I get really off focus. I’ve been working; always trying to work, and if you’ve been following me lately, I’ve been teaching about polarity.
That is the thing in these last two years that I’ve really come to understand is about the polarities. Our world is built in polarities, right? There’s front and back, there’s left and right, there’s up and down, there’s day and night, there is always an opposite in everything. So, what happens when we’re off balance?
I’m just going to give you the abridged...
Episode 127 The Diary of an Emotional Eater: What your emotions and a car battery have in common
Episode 127 The Diary of an Emotional Eater: What your emotions and a car battery have in common
Hey, good morning. Okay, I know; it's evening where you are but it's morning where I am, because I'm in Bangkok. Can you all see? I've never seen so many skyscrapers in my entire life, it's crazy!
It's about 12 hours difference; so, it's already Wednesday here, when I think it's Tuesday evening probably, where you are, and that sun is still really crazy over here. It's kind of hard to get good lighting when you're in this kind of environment, but and I wanted to talk about - okay I'm going to take the glass off, because that reflection thing drives me a little nuts - but I wanted to talk about polarities and it's kind of like what do emotions and car batteries have in common. I'm so going to have to hang with me because I'm going to loop this around to emotional eating; because that's really what we talked about.
Oh, in case you didn't know me, my name's Tammy Marshall, The UnEmotional...
Episode 126 The Diary of an Emotional Eater: What Do You Want?
Good morning, my name is Tammy Marshall and I am The UnEmotional Eater. As I was flying from Phoenix to Los Angeles yesterday the topography of the land struck me. It was desert with pops of civilization dropped in. It was desert, brown, hot, hard looking. Realizing I live in the foothills of the Smokey Mountains where it is luscious and green with lots of water sources.
In my rich imagination, I began to think about the pioneers that left the east, Virginia, Tennessee, Texas and headed further west to the unknown. They left without knowing really where they were going before roads and without a compass using only their gut, the sun, the stars, the moon as their guide.
They typically left as a group. You wonder what compelled multiple families to leave the comfort of their extended family, their familiar, their current home to pursue the risk of the unknown.
It is interesting to me as you saw them leave by wagon train, they...
Episode 125 The Diary of an Emotional Eater: The Dark Side
Episode 125 The Diary of an Emotional Eater: The Dark Side
Hey, how are you? It’s Tammy Marshall, I’m The UnEmotional Eater.
I am in training. I've been training for the last four days. It's oh my gosh! I love my trainer, but she wears my brain out sometimes. Anyway, we were talking yesterday, I had to do this whole exercise and because she always is checking our work; making sure that we're doing what we're supposed to be doing so that we serve you well.
We were talking about what we call the dark shadow, the dark side of ourselves and you know it's that stuff that we try to hide. That stuff we don't want people to know; that could be that bitchy part of you, that could be that judgmental part of you, that could be that irritable part of you. We're in the south, we're supposed to be southern and sweet, but maybe there's this part of you that just wants to tear somebody's head off. Did I say that out loud?
There are these parts, we call parts of us, that we try to hide, we...
Episode 123 The Diary of an Emotional Eater: Identities, Bug Fixes and Upgrades
Episode 123 The Diary of an Emotional Eater: Identities, Bug Fixes and Upgrades
Hey, good morning. How are you? Okay it's a little early, but I'm getting ready to go to class. I'm always studying because that's just what I do. I'm always trying to get better. I'm trying to get better for myself, I'm trying to get better for you. So, that's why I do what I do.
Anyway, my name is Tammy Marshall. I am The UnEmotional Eater. The thing that we've been talking about in class is about identities. I just wanted to know - sometimes God gives me funny pictures in my head - and I just want to kind of wanted to share with you what happens when you have struggled with weight, like your whole life. Most of the folks that I work with, that's who they are. They're not the person who is normally fit and has been thin their whole life and they got baby weight. The folks that I work with are the folks who have struggled forever.
My first memories about having crazy interactions with food and diets, I was...
Getting Rid of “WHY”: How One Simple Question Keeps Us Stuck (Part Two)
Yesterday’s post left us considering how to ask better questions.
To recap, as I said yesterday, we deceive ourselves into thinking that by passionately asking those “why?” questions, we are highly engaged in seeking answers. Yet the truth is that we only want answers which require no action from us. Gosh, that sounds harsh - but honestly, as badass as I appeared by demanding answers to my “why” questions, the truth is that I was just waiting for something or someone else to change so that I could miraculously experience change as a result.
Look, it isn’t that “why?” questions are bad questions necessarily, but their answers don’t include a call to action. They are low-level questions. They generate information which may or may not be true, but they also don’t ask us to do anything nor do they produce anything.
Stick with me here. Instead of asking “why” and waiting for...
