I participate in some closed groups on social media, and it makes me sad to see people berate themselves because they feel like they are “failing”. They ate something they weren't "supposed" to eat.  They didn't follow through on an exercise plan. They didn't keep their promise or their word.  So the self-shaming begins....

• “You can't do anything right”
• “What is wrong with you?”
• “You are never going to get this”
• “This isn’t going to work for you, nothing works for you”
• “You are an "f" up”, followed immediately by “you always have been” and/or “you always will be”

If you are anything like me, you have probably said this stuff or similar versions of it to yourself too.  It is heartbreaking.  

Take a minute and let me lead you through an exercise to better understand the impact I am talking about.  Think about a child, maybe one of your children or a...